Welcome to our podcast of getting real. Today I want to talk to you about how to get over disappointment. I think that many times we look for formulas or even look to God for a way to never be disappointed. We think that our anticipated outcome should always be a good thing. It’s like, you know, our plans would always work out. Things would always happen the way we thought they would or should. And we, and we often pray like that. We pray that, that we use the word of God and sometimes and how we pray that way. And I, and I want you to know something that I have found out in my life that even though I have done my best to follow Him and to do what’s right, it, things don’t always work out the way I thought they would or should.
Disappointment is part of life. It’s just part of it and we have to accept the fact that that’s it. That’s how it works. It just disappointment happens life. Life can disappoint you and traumatic things can happen in our life and uh, it can really break our hearts. It can really break our spirits if we allow that disappointment to take over our life. I know as I’ve been disappointed about certain things in my life, I immediately, I first of all find fault with myself. I look back so I shouldn’t have done this or I shouldn’t have done that or this is my fault or you know, and I start just blaming myself for all the things that are going on. And sometimes they are the consequences of decisions that I made, but also sometimes these things that happen are just completely out of my control.
I had nothing to do with it. Um, and, and so disappointment. What did we do with disappointment? How do we handle disappointment? How do we get over it? You know what I, what I’ve done is if, first of all, if I realized that my disappointment from the circumstances or situation I’m in right now doesn’t change who God is and how he feels about me, it doesn’t change who I am. I am who I am. And God is who he, who he says he is, and just because I’m disappointed doesn’t change anything. It doesn’t change who he is. He doesn’t change his, his love for me. He still loves me. No matter how difficult this is, rather than blaming him for of the things that are going on in my life were blaming myself. I just need to come to the understanding that this is what sometimes happens, that this just happens and I have to be willing to trust him and continue to move forward.
Whether no matter what he is who he says he is, he’s faithful, he’s good, he’s merciful, he’s kind, he’s loving. He’s for me. He’s not against me. He’s, he’s on my side and he’s created me to do great and mighty exploits in his name in spite of what’s going on, in spite of how I might of messed up or in spite of the things going on around me.
And so what I found is I have to look beyond the disappointment. I have to get over the emotion of being disappointed and put my faith and trust in him and what he’s doing in my life that he’s called me. He’s chosen me. And no matter what he, he, I, that hasn’t changed. And that I can continue to hold on to him and hold on to the drain that he’s placed in my heart and I can continue to move forward in that.
You know, uh, sometimes you’re disappointed because of what people do. You know, maybe your kids have disappointed you or maybe, uh, your husband, your spouse as disappointed you, someone who’s, who’s been close to you. Maybe they were, uh, they were disloyal to you or turned against you. You know, uh, and it’s disappointing to you. But rather than allowing that to create bitterness and anger and resentment and unforgiveness, we just need to realize, you know, we’re in a, we live in this life that is ever changing and things happen and people do things. They make decisions that, that are sometimes hurtful. And we just need to continue to know that we’re going to make it. We’re going to make it through this disappointment. You’re going to make it through your disappointment. You know, I, I think, um, we learned a lot more about ourselves and we learn a lot more about God when we go through times like this.
I’m not saying that we need to just welcome it like, oh, I can’t wait to be disappointed again, but uh, we also need to know that this is part of life and that we can learn something about him and learn something about ourselves through these times so that when, and if that happens again in the near future, we’ll be able to handle it differently. Disappointment also can create fear in our life. If you’ve had something traumatic happened to you, then all of a sudden you can be fearful of the future thinking, well, if that happened, what else could happen? Or you can be waiting for something else to happen. And a, you can allow those things to start bombarding your emotions and your, your mind, the way you think about your future. The scripture says that your future is bright, that he is a hope for you, that he’s given you a future.
And so, so you know, when you’re in spite of being disappointed about what’s happened and the things that have taken place, she can look ahead and know that it’s still, you have a bright future ahead of you. There are things you’re, there are good things on your horizon and so you don’t have to allow this, these things to tarnish or taint how you look at your future. So I just want to encourage you today, if you’ve been disappointed about something that’s taking place in your life, something that’s happened, you know, I want to encourage you to just get back up. Just get back up again. Just, just, just get up and begin to move forward to know that, that you’re still loved, you’re still cherished and cared for. And not only that, you are still gifted and called and chosen to do great things. And the dream that he’s placed in your heart hasn’t, it hasn’t ended.
It hasn’t died just because you’re disappointed. So allow those things just to be resurrected back in your life. Rise up to the occasion and just move forward. And that sounds easy, but it’s a process and the, and the, and it starts with you just making that conscious decision saying, you know what? I’m not going to let this stop me. I’m not going to let this keep me from moving forward. I’m not going to let this keep me from from reaching my dream, doing what I’m supposed to do today. I’m not going to allow this disappointment to create depression and discouragement in my life. I’m going to rise up to the occasion and I’m going to move forward. Understand that even in my future I may have a disappointment or two. There may be some things that just doesn’t happen the way I hoped or thought they think they should, but I’m going to continue to trust him and be faithful and continue to follow after the dream that you, that he’s placed in my life. So I hope that’s encouraging to you. Hope that helps you if you’ve been discouraged or if you found yourself disappointed. I just want to just say, hey man, you’re going to make it. You’re going to, you’re going to make it. And, uh, until next week, man, God bless you. And, uh, just, just keep the faith, keep trusting in him for, he’s faithful.